You don’t drown by falling into the water, you drown by staying there.
I want to change everything and nothing all at once. What if things stay the same? What if they don’t? What if?
What’s bothering you? What do you want to change?
I listened to an audio book yesterday while going through my day. (check out my Facebook page!) Things have finally started coming together – all my experiences, people, jobs – all have brought me to where I am now and I can be nothing but grateful. I started my meditation practice about two years ago and still to this day, I hear myself repeat some of those original mantras. After meeting with Amy, reading other materials, and delving into my own practice things are all coming together.
The book mentioned a lot of things I have heard from other authors before but used different examples. Your goals don’t make positive changes happen, your daily rituals do. Over the last few years I have developed some good daily rituals, and some not so good daily rituals. Real change starts with what you do today – and every day.
They asked the following:
What are the daily rituals that have contributed to your current situation?
Write down the details about your ideal circumstances?
What are the daily rituals that will get you from where you are to where you want to be?
Focus on positive change at a time, keep it small to start. All of these daily habits will add up to something amazing. Something I mentioned recently that I’ve been doing since summer started – I’ve been getting up earlier and drinking my coffee on the deck. I’ve done it everyday for about a month with the except of the days it was raining, and when it is I still step out for a few deep breaths of fresh air. It may seem insignificant to some, but this small tweak made me feel so much better about my day. Feeling “stuck” lately it makes me feel like I’m on vacation. I sit, sip my coffee, close my eyes, listen to the birds and just breath. It’s beautiful.
Carve out a little time each day to do the things that are important to you, even if it’s ten minutes.
“Sometimes we have to endure our very darkest moments in order to be reborn and rise again as a stronger happier version of ourselves. Although circumstances and people will occasionally break you down to the lowest of lows, when you keep your mind focused on the positive, your heart open to love, and continue to put one foot in front of the other you can recover the pieces rebuild and come back much stronger and happier than you ever would have been otherwise. Change is painful but, in the end, nothing is more painful than being stuck where you do not belong. “– Marc & Angel Chernoff (Getting Back to Happy)
All of a sudden you realize your present place in someone’s life, it wasn’t always that way. It’s funny the way relationships change over time, and you don’t realize how far off course it went. Sometimes I wish I could hit the rewind button, just to experience things again – be in that moment. Would I change anything? Do or say something different?
Everything I have experienced has brought me to this moment – today and for that, I am truly grateful. I have learned many lessons. The only way I am going to receive what I want and the love I deserve is if I am open to it.
Back to my daily rituals. They mentioned the goal of weight loss – it’s a great goal but how does one get there? Instead of having this giant goal sitting over your head, what can I do on a daily basis? Eat healthy and exercise. This I can handle. It seems to simple – and it is but when I’m looking at myself in the mirror and focusing on all the negative it seems like an unsurmountable task. So, for the next few weeks, I’m getting rid of these daily rituals that no longer serve me and inserting some favorable ones – exercise on the daily (1/2 marathon on the horizon). I’ll keep you posted.
I was up wayyyyyy early this morning with a fevery toddler who fell back to sleep. Before the sunrise I through on some clothes and set out to find a beautiful spot in the wet grass. I stopped a few places before I found the simplest of simple – where I run all the time (it was getting close and I didn’t want to miss it). And for the first time, in my hometown, beside a lake, I watched the sunrise. It was amazing.
Always, sending nothing but love