Don’t let the dating humor deter you!
I’m Laura Ferri, a dedicated, Master Certified Life Coach – committed to guiding individuals toward profound self-love, improved communication skills, and the creation of meaningful connections in personal and professional spaces. I have a passion for transformation, in any form!
You don’t have to be single to relate to me – discovering, creating yourself, and building your self-confidence is equally (and quite arguably more important) when you’re married.
If you take the time to dive deep – you’ll be improving your marriage because you’ll be giving your partner the very best version of yourself, every single day.
We all deserve that.
When you love yourself, you command a certain amount of respect for yourself which will elevate the respect from those around you. So… are you ready? 💕
If you are ready to begin you own self-love revolution.
But I have to say, I love making jokes about dating…all day long!
I’ve been writing a course for men, in relationships and how to decode the mystery of what she means – seriously guys, check back soon! We’re filming, editing, and getting everything ready to top with a bow. Seriously, ladies, this could potentially be a game changer in your relationship!
I even have a marketing concept:
I’ve created an online course for men- how to better communicate and get a better understanding of “what she means” by decoding the mystery for you!
I’m no longer dating – please tell me what handy man skills your husbands possess.
Will trade coaching services for home repairs!
I can coach him while he fixes my sh*t! (he doesn’t even have to know!)🤣
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I have trouble asking for and accepting help, and I’m guilty of standing in my own way from time to time.
If you’ve been following… depending on what stage I’m at I’ve easily watched the same movies hundreds of times. When we’re manifesting greatness it’s necessary to surround yourself (like mantras) with what it is you are trying to achieve. “Brittany runs a marathon”, “Eat, Pray, Love”, and “Wine Country” just to name a few.
So lately…I’ve been watching these cheesy Christmas hallmark movies and another in particular – The Holiday. It’s inspiring watching Cameron Diaz overcome her life traumas and find the love of her life in the span of two hours!
But the real inspiration (in my case) is Kate Winslet letting go of a guy who has held her heart captive for three years. Oh Kate, how I relate.
I spent time diving into myself, my business, still grieving to some level most days, I don’t want to just distract myself – but I would really like to make some new connections.
I know…you’re thinking but Laura, two blogs ago you said you were done dating for a while. The thing is every time you dip your toe into the dating pool you come out with some new experience (ahem) or lesson.
I’m still learning…all of it! I knew how to be married, and I know how to be on my own…navigating the dating world and a new relationship, not so much.
With all that I’ve been working on to build my business and as I continue to work on myself, men…truly fascinate me. And at times, I feel the bullsh*t isn’t worth the hassle… but then you meet someone that even though it may not work, gives you faith that there actually may be someone out there, waiting to love me too.
The whole struggle, the whole blog, all of it – started because I wanted to learn how to love myself. I was still married at the time but had suffered some great losses and wasn’t sure where I fit into any one box.
I don’t know if I can pinpoint the exact time, but I’ve loved myself for quite a while now. I love my humor and heart. I love my body and I know what it’s capable of. Do you love yourself?
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My business is growing, I’m learning all sorts of new things – I am ready for someone to love me. Ultimately – I am looking for my partner in crime, but I’m open to experience as it comes along. Whether it’s just a single conversation, or a weeks’ worth of laughs (if you know, you know).
Why is “commitment” such a big word? Why is it so scary? What does it mean to you? When you clearly have written on your profile that you’re looking for a relationship, why are they surprised when I say I’m looking for one?
If a woman says she’s looking for something casual, it doesn’t mean she’s only looking for sex. She may want to be wined and dined too – and that’s perfectly okay!
If a guy says he’s looking for something casual – is he just looking for sex? Is that his way of saying he’s afraid to/doesn’t want to commit? Does he want to hang out?
I don’t believe that commitment and monogamy are used in the correct context in the dating world.
Maybe we aren’t speaking the same language; is the fact because I’m looking for a commitment received in the way that I appreciate monogamy – I don’t want to share, but do I want to get married tomorrow?
Absolutely not.
I wonder how many potential relationships stop right at “what are you looking for?” – which typically happens in the first 24 hours.
But the way men receive that, could be so completely different. Plus, factor in all our past dating traumas, childhood traumas, fear…makes for a good time.
We should all be walking around with warning labels “Very friendly, needs to be in bed by 9pm, strong fear of abandonment, and food motivated”. What would yours say?
In the meantime, I continue my research!
As I’ve been building my own business (hello dream life) …MY coach – yes, I work with a coach (you should too!) gave me some great advice… he said that when he was building his business, when he wasn’t reaching the (NEW WORD) sales he was desiring…he said he turned inward and dove back into learning. So, I’ve been doing the same. Reading and absorbing anything I can that can help bring my vision to reality.
I wonder if they have a masterclass on blow jobs 🤣
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“Connection is the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgement” – Brene Brown
That’s the goal!
Sending you SO much love!
Xoxo,
Laura
